7 Ways to Say “I Love You”

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Based on the work of Elizabeth Rider, www.elizabethrider.com  

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to reach out and celebrate love in all its forms and guises. Here are seven wonderful ways to say, “I Love You!” 

Eros (EE-ros) – Romantic, Passionate Love 

On Valentine’s Day, this is the most well-known type of love: erotic and full of passion. It’s love of the body, and though it can be fleeting, it burns like the sun while it lasts. Look deeply into your partner eyes and say, “I want you!” (Use your sexy voice for extra impact.) 

Philia (FILLY-uh) – Affectionate, Friendly Love 

Philia is characterized by loyalty and trust. It is encouraging, kind, affectionate, and everything that makes up a true friendship. It is entirely platonic, yet both meaningful and sweet. You simply want the best for another person. Call up your best friend and tell her, “I miss you!” 

Related: A Love Story: Remember the Days?

Storge (STOR-gay) – Unconditional, Familial Love 

Storge refers to the unconditional love that parents have for their children. It is a protective, kinship-based love that embodies approval, sacrifice, and acceptance. Think of it as the love a parent has for a child – a strong bond and fondness that is built out of familiarity and need. Have coffee with your (grown up) child and say, “I am so proud to be your mother!” 

Agape (uh-GAH-pay) – Selfless, Universal Love 

Agape is an empathetic, selfless love for others that includes a love for God, nature, strangers, and the less fortunate. It has links to an unselfish, genuine concern for the welfare of others. Agape is spiritual love expressed through meditation, nature, intuition, and spirituality. Agape expects absolutely nothing in return and just makes you feel good. Surprise a neighbor with a good deed and wish them a “Happy Valentine’s Day.” 

Ludus (LUD-uhs) – Playful, Flirtatious Love 

Ludus is easy-breezy love. Playful, flirtatious, and non-committal, Ludus is a crush. It’s a fling, a no-strings-attached sort of conquest and butterflies in your stomach. It’s all about having fun, so think of whatever that means for you — flirting, dancing, teasing. Invite a friend to go out dancing, to a movie, or for coffee. 

Pragma (PRAG-muh) – Committed, Long-Lasting Love 

In the simplest of terms, it’s long-term love. Pragma is a love that is seen in many long-term marriages and friendships. It is built on commitment, endurance, companionship, and sharing similar hopes for the future. A lot of people (married folks, especially) will understand pragma as “making it work.” Tell your friend, partner, or spouse: “I accept you just as you are, and I look forward to spending the next 50 years together.” 

Philautia (phil-AW-shuh) – Self Love 

Of all the different kinds of love, this is often the most challenging. However, it’s foundational to the other types. Philautia is self-love, which makes it possible to give and receive love from other people. (Haven’t we all heard about not being able to pour from an empty cup?) Philautia goes hand in hand with self-worth, confidence, and the boost of self-esteem that is necessary for a sense of one’s purpose. Look in the mirror, smile widely at your reflection, and say, “I love you, you gorgeous creature!”